Turn Your Wounds into Wisdom
Abuse is insidious. Trauma is soul-crushing. It can scar some people for life.
After experiencing abuse, betrayal, and trauma, you may feel as if you're the walking wounded. It's a normal trauma response to want to avoid your triggers, grief, and flashbacks. To bury your bad memories. To run away from your traumatic events. To pretend it didn't happen.
Yet, we have come to understand that ignoring our trauma only prevents our healing. One fact is that if you use escapism, chemicals, or something to dull your pain, to feel numb, you won't be in a position to recover. And it may haunt you for life. The body keeps the score. Dr. Gabor Maté, a trauma and addiction expert, has taught that repressed memories oftentimes can lead to further complications. It may include depression, anxiety, addictions, autoimmune conditions, cancer, chronic pain, and/or medical conditions.
“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the center of all addictive behaviors. It is present in the gambler, the Internet addict, the compulsive shopper and the workaholic. The wound may not be as deep and the ache not as excruciating, and it may even be entirely hidden—but it’s there. As we’ll see, the effects of early stress or adverse experiences directly shape both the psychology and the neurobiology of addiction in the brain.” ~ Dr. Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction
He explains, “Trauma is not what happens to you, but what happens inside you.” ~ Dr. Gabor Maté, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture
From every wound there is a scar. For every scar, there is a powerful story to tell. A story that says, “I have survived.” There is hope to heal. There's hope to go from barely surviving to fully surviving.
In my healing journey, there was nothing more empowering than to transform my trauma wounds into my divine wisdom. To take every painful backbreaking battle from my past and to transmute it. To shift my mindset.
To bravely use my painful wounds as a steppingstone to elevate myself higher. To now become a survival guide for other's who are struggling with narcissistic abuse, sibling abuse, a dysfunctional family, psychological abuse, PTSD, sexual abuse, and betrayal trauma, plus more. Some abuse survivors may get stuck in the "why" moments. To go around and around in circles, asking, "Why did this terrible nightmare happen to me?"
What if we look within? What if we take time to self-reflect? What if we shift our beliefs about what happened to us?
I encourage you to consider a higher viewpoint. To closely examine with an open mind another perspective about your trauma. To look outside the box in our physical 3D world. To raise your consciousness to a higher spiritual realm; the 5D dimension.
We don’t personally grow, nor expand ourselves when our lives are smooth sailing. We can't learn valuable life lessons when everything is rosy. Hardships force us to lean on a higher power, especially during our trials.
Whether you believe in God, Divine Source, or something else, we were not promised an easy life. We aren't exempt from bad things happening to us. We live in the real world. And right now, it sure is messy. Take heart, my friend. Even Jesus said there will be trouble on earth. Yet, we’re reminded how He overcame our world. May we have faith that we, too, can rise above our adversity.
Truly, it is during our worst backbreaking battles in life when we will be stretched far beyond our comfort zones. When we will have the opportunity to take something negative and to turn it into something positive.
Our pain was not in vain. Something beneficial can come from our heartaches, traumas, and dramas. One excellent example is the lotus flower. Just like the lotus., we too, can have the ability to rise from the mud, bloom out of the darkness, and to radiate into our world.
“There is the mud, and there is the lotus that grows out of the mud. We need the mud in order to make the lotus.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
We can take our trauma wounds and transform them into amazing wisdom. We can consciously choose to become a better person. To use our past experiences in effort to give compassion to others.
To become a beautiful beacon of light, love, and hope. Our world needs you, your light, your love, and your wisdom.
If you want emotional support along your healing journey, I offer three business services that may help you to go from barely surviving to fully thriving. I provide the following services:
Certified Trauma Recovery Coaching https://www.danaarcuri.com/coach
Intuitive Coaching https://www.danaarcuri.com/intuitivecoaching
Certified Master Energy Practitioner Sessions https://www.danaarcuri.com/energyhealing
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