Low Self-Worth is a Trauma Response
If you have suffered abuse and trauma, it's a common trauma response to have a low self-worth. It's a normal trauma response to not set healthy boundaries and to tolerate unhealthy relationships or circumstances.
According to the American Psychological Association, "Your self-worth is your evaluation of yourself as a capable and valuable human being deserving of consideration and respect. It is an internal sense of being worthy of love."
Your value doesn't decrease based on someone else's inability to see your worth. If toxic people cross your boundaries, it speaks volumes about THEM.
Important Fact about Abuse Survivors
You are not your abuse. You are not what the abusers did to you. You are not your trauma. You are the cleverness that survived. You are the courage that escaped. You are the power that hid and protected a tiny spark of your light. You will fan that spark into a bonfire of rage and love, and with it you will burn all of their lies into ashes. Like the Phoenix, you will rise above the fiery furnace of ashes to shine brightly.
Your worth is not dictated by those who chose to not see it. Stop settling for breadcrumbs. Stop settling for unhealthy, toxic relationships. Stop settling for disrespectful people who mistreat you. Stop settling for what isn't in alignment to your worth.
You are allowed to terminate toxic, abusive relationships. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to cut ties to those who manipulated you, deceived you, who triangulated your relationships with other people, who psychologically abused you, and who betrayed you. You don't owe anyone, including your family, friends, and co-workers, an explanation for taking care of yourself.
Today's Gentle Reminder: You have many unique strengths, gifts, and talents to offer our world. Your story is powerful. Learn to raise your standards with a bigger vision.
Your dreams and goals should be so big they scare you. Stretch yourself outside of your comfort zone. Have confidence in your lovely strengths and talents.
The minute you realize your worth, you shift your energy to attract new people who respect your worth. It starts with you first. Upgrade your perception of your value and worth.
Are you still in the midst of the abuse cycle? Not charging what you are worth is a trauma response. Accepting low wages is a trauma response. Tolerating abusive dynamics is a trauma response. It only keeps you stuck in the painful abuse cycle. Isn't it time for you to set yourself free? In effort to break the cycle, consider working with a trauma-informed mental health professional or a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, such as myself.
Not standing up for yourself isn't beneficial for you, your health, nor your ability to recover from trauma. This will only hinder your progress to fully heal.
It's time to break free from the abuse cycle. It's time to not allow people, places, or things to sabotage your health, your dreams, and your life. May you have the courage to only accept the best and nothing less.
Positive Affirmations:
I am worthy of appropriate compensation.
I am worthy of kind, safe, loving, respectful relationships.
I have incredible talents, services, and strengths.
I am worthy of success, prosperity, and abundance.
"I survived because the fire inside of me burned brighter than the fire around me."
While I may not have met you, I hope you realize how worthy you are. That you are deserving of authentic divine love, respect, and caring connections. No matter what you've been through, the kindest act of self-preservation and compassion is to start your healing process.
I pray for you to go from barely surviving to fully thriving. To have major improvements in your health, relationships, career, and deepest aspirations. To be happy, at peace, and blessed beyond your wildest imagination.
For there is always hope to increase your quality of life. One day at a time. One breath at a time. One step at a time as you move forward.
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