The truth of the matter is that forgiving ourselves is the most difficult, humbling, and empowering experience that can lead to self-growth. To forgive our limitations, flaws, imperfections, and mistakes. To stop beating up ourselves for impulsive decisions or poor choices. To let go of our regrets, guilt, shame, and disappointment in our own failings.
How many times do we find ourselves saying, "I should not have done that?" We can easily get wrapped up in a vicious cycle of what we should have or could have done differently. Yet this unproductive mindset can actually do more harm to us and hold us back from moving forward with acceptance, understanding, and grace.
There is an inspiring quote that I love by Judy Belmont that says, "Forgive yourself for not having the foresight to know what now seems so obvious in hindsight."
Today, can you release your burdens, frustrations, guilt, shame, anger, and regret? Instead of floundering in a sea of despair, are you willing to give yourself grace and forgiveness for not being perfect? To surrender whatever is weighing heavy on your heart to God who is ready to cover you with His unconditional love, mercy, and grace?
In order to walk in God's grace and unforgiveness, let's take a closer look at what His Word says in Ephesians 1:7-8 (NCV), "In Christ we are set free by the blood of His death, and so we have forgiveness of sins. How rich is God's grace, which He has given us so fully and freely."
Before you can completely forgive yourself, you must first understand that forgiveness does not mean that you are a failure, a quitter, a loser, stupid, an awful person, or that you are weak. Forgiveness does not mean that you treat yourself badly from making mistakes or that you allow others to walk all over you or mistreat you.
There is power in forgiveness and it begins with grace. Grace does not blame or find fault. Grace does not remain stuck in negative thinking. Grace does not use guilt or shame to make you feel unworthy of forgiveness. Even when you may feel undeserving of God's grace, your Heavenly Maker provides you His free gift of grace. "For by such grace you have been saved through faith. This does not come from you; it is the gift of God." (Ephesians 2:8 ISV)
Despite what you have done, where you have been, or any poor choices, God's grace wipes your slate clean so it becomes as white as snow. You are forgiven. You are accepted. You are cherished. You are worthy. You are made new!
Affirmations to Make Peace and Forgive Yourself:
- I will rise above my past and have a fresh start.
- God's grace helps me to release shame, guilt, and pain.
- I surrender my sin and mistakes to the Lord.
- Each experience has been a valuable lesson to gain wisdom.
- I am worthy of God's forgiveness and grace.
- I actively take a step forward toward personal growth.
- Life lessons transform me to be who God designed me to be.
- As I forgive myself, I can forgive others.
- I have the courage to heal and become whole.
- I make peace with my past and look forward to my future.